Today, we’re learning about the second step in building an effective play, and that is using our “L”, which stands for “lies.” What are the lies, or limiting beliefs that you tend to believe in that situation that make it difficult for you to follow through on your goals.
For example, maybe Sunday dinner at Mom’s house is difficult because she makes all of your childhood favorites, complete with dessert, and you usually end up eating way past full and leaving with regrets. Some of the lies you might be buying into could be:
Simply examining our own thoughts and challenging them creates space in our minds for the next step of creating an effective PLAY, which is identifying the actions we will take. We’ll learn more about that next week. I hope you will be joining me for one of our FREE Sample Group Meetings and experience for yourself what it’s like to join a From Food to Faith group. If you haven’t registered yet, click HERE. On that live, online meeting, I’ll be helping participants develop a personalized plan of their own, from start to finish! See for yourself that it IS possible to make peace with food and with yourself. It is possible to move From Food to Faith.
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Last week we learned that, just like a championship football team, we must create PLAYs that we can practice for each predictable challenge we will face, whether we struggle to develop a healthy relationship with food, or build cohesive teams.
The four steps to creating an effecting PLAY include: P - Prepare L - Identify the lies A – Action Y - Yardstick Today, let’s look at the first step to creating our PLAYS, which is Prepare. Because of my husband’s profession, I often find myself at dinners where I don’t know many people, if anyone at all. The conversation topics are not always my cup of tea, and I’m tempted to use food as a way to fill my mouth, so I don’t have to talk, or to give me something to talk about. This is a predictable situation that I find myself in often, therefore, I decided to create a PLAY to help me deal with it more successfully in the future. Since the first step to creating a PLAY is to prepare, I simply asked myself, what can I do ahead of time to help me make this situation as emotionally and physically satisfying as I can?
Preparing is critical to meeting our challenging situations successfully, but the PLAY doesn’t end there. Next week we’ll look at how to identify the lies and limiting beliefs that threaten to hold us back. Tempted to join our From Food to Faith Community? See how you can try a FREE From Food to Faith group meeting. No strings attached!
I decided to love it. I realized that I was missing out on many great opportunities to spend time with my best friend! So I began learning about the game.
Soon I actually understood all (…ok…most) of the numbers on the tv screen. I learned about rankings, national champions and underdogs. But nothing blew my mind as much as learning about plays. For years I had been seeing players block and tackle, but I had never realized there were multiple ways they could do this! I learned about hooks and swims, fakes and fallbacks. I learned that every game has to have its own game plan, and every team has a collection of PLAYS that prepare them to handle any number of the predictable scenarios they are likely to find themselves in. What are the predictable situations you might find yourself in when facing your current opponent? If your opponent is the habit of turning to food when you’re not hungry, you might find that you struggle at awkward dinner gatherings with strangers. Maybe you get tackled every time you go to book club, or to Sunday dinner at Mom’s. Creating a PLAY for each of those situations allows you to make a plan ahead of time, when you are thinking clearly, to help you come out of those situations much closer to the goal. Here are the steps to creating a PLAY: P - Prepare What will you do ahead of time to help ensure your success? L - Lies What are the lies or limiting beliefs you tend to believe in this situation? What is the corresponding truth to each of those lies? A - Action What actions will you take? Y - Yardstick How did you play measure up? Where does it need to be changed? Remember, it takes a lot of practice for anything to become second-nature, and mistakes are a part of the game. The more we practice, the more prepared and confident we are that we can face our opponent and come off conqueror! I am passionate about helping my clients develop their Game Plan and Plays in a Playbook to help them have the tools to deal with every situation, whether that situation is developing a healthy relationship with food, a stronger connection among colleagues, or increasing their Return on Investment. I have found that having a coach is as critical in overcoming our life challenges, as it is on a football field. Watch this short video to see how you can participate in a FREE From Food to Faith Sample Meeting, and learn how to create PLAYS for your own life!
Next week: I’ll cover how we can use the first step of creating our PLAYS, Prepare, to help us find success on our journey From Food to Faith.
As Linda’s car pulled up in the driveway, I saw her break out in a big beautiful laugh as she quickly locked all of her doors and sat in her currently dry condition, pondering how to keep it that way.
What happened next surprised me. Rather than threatening us within an inch of our lives, which is what would likely have happened at my house, she simply decided there was no avoiding it, grabbed her purse, and bolted for the house as quickly as she could. She got no more than 5 feet before she looked like a drowning kitten, but she was laughing hysterically all the way into the house and for the rest of the evening. I couldn’t believe it! Not only did she not get angry with us, she actually embraced it, and us in the process. The final step in the Fish! Philosophy that unleashes your potential and that of those around you is the concept of Play. Too often we take ourselves far too seriously. We forget that every task, no matter how simple or repetitive, can be fun if we make up our minds to make it be. Can you add a little play into your work? Your home life? Into the way you cook, shop, or clean? In my Intuitive Eating Group Meetings, we even turned our quest to change our relationship with food into a game! Playing releases powerful endorphins that create feelings of connection and satisfaction, leaving everyone involved better off in the end. So when life seems a little overwhelming, perhaps you can consider implementing the Fish! Philosophy of Play into your day! Life doesn't have to be so serious, ya' know?
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How you choose to spend the seconds within those days is up to you. You can be the person who just does what they have to do, or you can be the person who impacts; the person who creates significance…that adds value, lifts up, and that is there for someone else for one of their 365 days this year.
If you do that often enough in your relationships, in your friendships, in your marriage, with your kids, with your mom and dad, with your brothers and sisters, with your aunts and uncles, your neighbors, with the man or woman at the grocery store, with your community, you will become world famous to them. Most of us can’t imagine the rewards we get by living a “world famous” life. For sure, you will make somebody else’s day, but you know what? There’s more than that. When you begin to recognize your true potential, your true power to make somebody else’s day, as you begin to tap into the resources of curiosity and imagination, you begin to realize and believe in your own significance. You have significance. You have the power to add meaning to somebody else’s life. When you realize this, then your own life will never be the same again. When you look in the mirror, you will see something different within you. You will see a power inside of you that can impact anybody you come in contact with. It’s a choice we can make. And not only do we enrich the lives of other people, we enrich our own lives in the process. So to paraphrase Clint Eastwood, go ahead, make their day Bring Fish! into your organization
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We’ve been talking about the Fish! Philosophy, discussing why Choose your attitude was Fish! Philosophy step #1 last week. This week, let’s talk about why step #2 is Be there.
We’ve all felt it. You’re telling someone something you feel is meaningful and the next thing you know, they’re checking the latest vibration on their phone. Immediately, an invisible wall goes up and suddenly you feel you’re more alone than if you had actually been alone. Perhaps you’ve been lucky enough to experience the opposite. Every once in awhile you meet a person who has truly learned the value of being there mentally, as well as physically, for others. They make eye contact. They ignore interruptions to your conversation. They ask questions and engage in the conversation. There is nothing quite like leaving a person who just made you feel like the most important person alive for the few minutes you were together, is there? Too often, we are physically present, but mentally elsewhere. When we are sitting at work, our minds are at home. When we’re finally at home, our minds at work. We can’t seem to get our bodies and our minds at the same place at the same time. When I work with organizations to help them adopt the Fish! Philosophy, they are often stunned at how the simple skill of learning how to be there positively affects job satisfaction, productivity, retention, and company culture. The truth is, being there changes lives. After all, the only words more powerful than I love you are the words I’m there for you. Bring Fish! to your organization
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John turned their story into s 30 minute film, accompanied by a short book, and the Fish! philosophy was born. The first step in the Fish! philosophy is Choose Your Attitude. This step can seem as if we are putting on rose-colored glasses and simply ignoring the difficult things in life. No doubt, there is a lot of “stuff” in our lives that threaten to weigh us down. We deal with depression or anxiety, divorces and bankruptcy, difficult relationships and health problems. We are always going to have “stuff”, but this is the way to rise above the “stuff” and find joy and peace in your life in spite of it. In 2008, the world faced a terrible financial crisis that affected untold millions. And yet, life went on. Along with banks collapsing, foreclosures, divorces and deaths, there were also babies being born, bar mitzvahs held, and companies thriving. And in all of that, the only power you and I could never lose was our power to choose our own attitude. It has been proven over and over again that it takes a positive attitude to achieve positive results. When we choose to manage our attitude to look at what is going right, we are able to see our full circumstances more clearly, and see the pathway to improvement and possibility. When we choose to look at things in a more positive way, it gives permission to the people around us to do the same, and pretty soon, we have a team of people who are primed to create positive change out of whatever circumstances we find ourselves in. As Helen Keller pointed out, “Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see a shadow.” Determine today that from this day forward, you will carefully choose your attitude. Bring fish to your organization
Next week, we’ll touch on the importance of simply being there.
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As a leadership trainer, I love helping organizations and people recognize the power they have over their own happiness, not to mention the influence they can have on their influence over others. One of my favorite ways to teach this lesson is by sharing the famous Fish! Philosophy.
The four simple principles of the Fish! Philosophy can change any person…any organization…from one of apathy and boredom, to one of excitement, energy and joy! And it can happen faster than you think. The Fish! Philosophy was developed by the Seattle Pike Place Fish market. These fish mongers had a sweaty, dirty job, repetitive day after day. Like all the surrounding fish markets, the atmosphere had become draining. There was no energy and the employees could hardly wait to leave work each day. But one day, they realized that it didn’t have to be that way. They could choose to make their fish market world famous, and turn those same hard-working jobs, into meaningful opportunities to serve others, all while having a wonderful time themselves. Over the next four weeks, we’ll discuss the four principles of the Fish! Philosophy: 1. Choose Your Attitude. 2. Be there. 3. Make their day. 4. Play. You may wonder, what does the Fish! Philosophy have to do with me? Good question! Do you want to have more energy? Do you want to enjoy your work? Do you want to create better connections with those around you? Would you like to increase your influence with your family, friends and coworkers? Would you like your challenges to fly by with fun and excitement? If you answered yes to any of these questions, it’s time to learn about…and embrace…the philosophy that has enhanced 80% of Fortune 500 companies. If you’re ready to take your life, or the life of your organization, it’s time to go Fish! Bring Fish! to your organization
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 Carson had been trying to learn to ride his bike for a solid year without success. He was terrified. And the more he fell, the more terrified he became. He got to where he would give up quickly out of frustration, but he really wanted to learn, so he never gave up.
One day we took the family camping and brought our bikes along. He once again gathered the courage to try his bike so I strapped on his helmet and protective knee, elbow and wrist pads and Ken took him to the top of the gentle hill where we were camped. Our hoots and hollers could be heard throughout the camp when he was able to keep his balance and pedal his way all the way to the bottom of the hill! We were so happy for him! As he rode past me for another attempt, he turned to me and said, “Mom, do you know how I knew that today would be the day I could finally ride by bike? I heard the winds of change! Change. We want it. We fear it. We vote for it. We avoid it. So how do we make it actually happen? Often, we find ourselves walking down a path that we really don’t want to go, but somehow we don’t seem to be able to stop ourselves. We overreact to a negative comment by a spouse or coworker; we procrastinate a project; we ignore our bodies when they tell us they are full; we avoid the conversations that could heal hearts. There are hundreds of entrances to this well-worn path, and we feel drawn to walk down it for the thousandth time, despite the fact that it leads to only one destination…misery. Paths are created when we choose to take the same route to a given destination, over and over again. The more we walk the path, the easier it is. The grass and weeds give up their fight, the ground becomes hardened as it packs down beneath our feet, and it becomes ever so much easier to find. The interesting thing about paths is that they are also easily destroyed. The best way to destroy a path is to leave it alone. This can be terribly hard to do. We like paths that feel familiar and safe to us, even if we aren’t that thrilled with their destination. To choose a new path can feel scary. The brush can be prickly and intimidating, the way may be strewn with numerous chances to stumble, and the destination may not be guaranteed. But one thing is certain: if we do not want to end up in the same destination, we must be committed to choosing a new path. The good news is that every time we choose to ignore the siren song of the old pathway, we give Mother Nature another day to take it back for herself. The grass and weeds begin to claim their old territory, and after some time, we will scarce be able to recognize it as what once was our favorite place to stroll. As our new path becomes more familiar and comfortable to travel, we will pass by those old pathways with nary a glance, as nature will have mercifully turned it into nothing more than a story of what used to be.
The world would have you believe that you cannot be trusted…that the only way to finally be happy with your body is to turn your will (and your money) over to them. In return, they promise to give you a slimmer and trimmer you before you can say “swimsuit season”. But can they? Can they really?
Countless studies have shown that diets don’t work. And those who engage in diets end up slowing down their metabolism and gaining even more weight when the diet inevitably comes to an end. That doesn’t sound like a very “happy new year” to me. But there is good news! YOU. DO. NOT. NEED. TO. DIET. That’s right. You. The person who may have put on a few pounds this holiday season. You do not need to give your power away to any diet program, pill or promise this year. You can find peace with food and with your body once and for all and you don’t have to buy any special food. You don’t need to deprive yourself of all of the normal, enjoyable foods of life. You can learn to be an intuitive eater (#shameandguiltnotincluded). You can learn to listen for your own hunger. You can enjoy the foods you really love. You can learn to honor your body’s satiety cues. You can have more health, vitality, and freedom than you’ve ever experienced before. Now THAT’S what I call a HAPPY NEW YEAR! If you are ready to end your war with food once and for all, join me on Instagram and Facebook for regular support on your journey From Food to Faith. This is one journey that I can guarantee has the power to make this one very Happy New Year indeed! 
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AuthorAfter decades of my life being centered around food, I finally started to realize that I did not have a food management problem. In all actuality, I had an emotion management problem. - Becky Ivory Archives (August 2018-Present)
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